extremely good:
http://www.suhaibwebb.com/relationships/marriage-family/spouse/want-your-marriage-to-last-get-premarital-counseling/

http://www.suhaibwebb.com/relationships/marriage-family/beforemarriage/reading-the-red-flags/

how important is the taaruf process. take it seriously. and no, don't let shyness take over you, and dont ever plan to leave all the taaruf after marriage. find out if you are compatible with the potential spouse, BEFORE marriage, during the taaruf process.